We all have these people in our lives. They use whatever methods to manipulate us into their sick worlds. First sign of a toxic person is that the relationship is one sided. The only reason they hang around you is because they can take out their life's frustrations on you. Another sign they are toxic to you is that they drag you down like dead weight. They have control issues and do things to make you feel like you can't live without them. On top of that they peg you as their pseudo-savior. As if by talking to you they can find relief from their inner demons.
These people are simply stuck in their own ego trips. When they are done playing victim they are aggressors. This is to perpetuate a sense of control or illusion of power. The major key here is that life happens in ways they don't want it so they do whatever means necessary to keep you from moving on. When you break from their spell there is guilt, pity, anger, and sorrow. Guilt because you feel like you were the cause of all this drama, but you aren't. You pity them because you think you can fix this or that you can damage control. The anger and sorrow comes from the old feelings you had. Chances are you also felt the highs in a toxic relationship and reminiscing about those good times can make any person collapse.
You should move on. The only way you can gain your normal life is to let them go. Let them be who they got to be. Toxic people cannot be changed. You cannot use your love to fix these people. They often come from broken pasts that no amount of time or effort you provide can fix. This is their road to walk alone and that is all there is to it.
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