So you are gay or lesbian: now what?

1. You aren't alone. There are many walking with you towards the path of understanding their sexuality. If you feel overwhelmed find someone trusted to talk to. It will be okay.

2. Religion. Don't get to hung up on this. Surely if there was a supreme being he either wouldn't care much about the lives of humans or he would want you to be happy. Religion isn't a sure thing. If your belief is a problem find a new one. There are plenty of more open minded religions.

3. Parents. Your parents will come around and if they don't that is that. They have their opinions, but don't undermine your own happiness to seek their approval. Part of being who you are is having courage to live it despite the naysayers. 

4. Find like minded people. There is a whole new world out there for you now. You are a gay or lesbian. There are many people who are so go find some people who know what you are going through. If you don't have the courage go to anonymous forums or chats to talk about your problems. 

5. Believe in yourself. I know this is a tough one, but when you really think about it this is really just about you loving the way you love. It is no one's business and all you can do is become resilient enough to withstand those who are ignorant. You can't change the world, but you can change how you react to it.

6. Be aware that there are those who may become violent or may bully you simply because you are different. Don't ever feel that you need to kill yourself or aren't worth it that you shouldn't be alive. You are an amazing person that deserves to be happy. It is hard, but you will get through it. It may not feel like it at the time though you will surprise even yourself at how strong you can be. Be your own superhero!

7. Be smart about it. When embarking on relationships, protect yourself sexually. There are also damaged people out there regardless if they are gay or not so don't go rushing into relationships to prove something to other people. Also, you don't need to fulfill any gay stereotypes if you don't want to. Don't feel like there is a way of being homosexual that you have to live up to. Be you but just be the gay you that is authentic.

                                                                                                 With love from one human being to another