1. Leave your misgivings at the door. This is your child and you should love them even if you never imagined them to be homosexual. Reassure them that you love them. This is not about you losing face as a parent but about the courage your child had to tell you something.
2. Learn about it. Read up on stories of other homosexual people coming out. It will give you some perspective. Most of the time we are uncomfortable with things we don't know. There is a fear of the unknown.
3. God and your beliefs. Okay, so let me think about this. You are going to listen to some book tell you how to love your child. For those who believe God condemns gay behavior news flash you don't know what God thinks you aren't God. Don't destroy it because religion dictates so.
4. He or she may be your child but they are their own person. So what if they don't live how you want? It is their life. If you think about how you were as a child, you certainly didn't live up to 100% what your parents want in a kid. As parents your job is to guide them passively not control them. After you die, they must be equipped to live their life.
5. Homosexuality a passing phase. For most, homosexuality is not a phase. They are coming to you because they probably chewed this matter over a million times in their head. Even if it was a phase, as a parent all you can do is support your child while they try to come into their own person.
6. Screw what everyone thinks including society. Yeah, your child may be gay though you are a good parent raising a decent human being who happened to love someone of the same gender. Societal rules were made by the people and should serve the people. Everyone is a free citizen and as long as they don't hurt no one they should be allow to be happy however they see fits.
7. You want to protect them. Your baby is growing up and will eventually leave the nest. They need to know that even when they leave that your nest is still there for them. You never stop being a parent no matter how old your babies get, but you must let them fend for themselves though nothing is stopping you from supporting them at a distance. Protection doesn't necessary mean jumping into their body and directing them where to go.
8. Talk about your own feelings about this matter, but be sensitive. Don't get pushy with your views on whether it is right or wrong because in the end, it is just about love. Communicate with them even if you don't like this choice they are making, be aware that they too have feelings. Don't go charging all up and through because you can't stand it. It ends up hurting them and you.
Open your heart and mind. Nothing is more heart warming then a love between a parent and child. More advice will come in the meanwhile have a look around at some of my other posts. Good luck for you and your homosexual teen!
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